flirting

For a speech class, we had to make a speech, memorize it and then present it to the class. I thought of my topic to be about flirting. Not because i am a flirt or anything, I just thought that this would really catch the attention of the whole class and hopefully get a good grade from the audience attentiveness. Unfortunately, i was not able to finish my speech in the allocated time of two minutes ( i was having too much fun and i was nervous as hell!) Anyways, this is my speech, the edited version anyways..

FLIRTING

It may be as simple as looking into someones eye to a meaningful conversation that lasts for hours. It is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction, according to social sciences. Many different people define flirting in many different ways. It is a fact that most people to flirt to open doors to a meaningful relationship. Not necessarily a intimate relationship, a meaningful one (yes theres a difference). It is a way to preserve our specie. if we, the ever noble human beings did not have the instinct to flirt and attract the opposite sex, then human reproduction would cease. it all begins through a meaningful conversation and vibes. To define this critical period of knowing each other is called "flirting"

Flirting is more exciting in social areas like parties, drinking places and even school grounds. Eye contact is essential. Once a good eye contact is made, an interested reaction is that he or she (more specifically she) keeps the eye contact for at least one second. However, the go signal for you to approach is when they glance at you for the second time. Be quick to catch that second glance. On approach, men have the problem in this area. There is no exact script on how to begin a conversation, but just remember: initial impressions are based 55% on appearance and body language, 38% on style of speaking and only 7% on what we actually say. In interaction, be informed of the zones. Social zone ranges from 4ft to 12 ft. away. This is when we wave, nod and acknowledge familiar faces around you. Personal zone is from 4ft to 12inches (1ft). This is for friends, acquaintances and siblings. And the intimate zone is from 12 inches to skin contact (unchartered territory) This zone is reserved for lovers, parents and best friends. Keep in the borderline of the social zone because any attempts nearer can be uncomfortable not only to you, but also the person you will be talking to. Women usually give off "barrier signals" such as folding or tightly crossing their legs or may action rubbing her neck (instead of at the back of the ear) with her elbow facing you. When these are noticed, BACK OFF! Do not be too pushy in eye contact or attempting to touch. Both parties are involved here, so if one does not feel to take it to another level, dont push it. During the conversation, LISTEN and be open-minded. For guys, things things you CAN talk about: common friends, school, work, or both, the place, principles (if any). Basically, anything that is interesting enough to keep the mood up and light. Things NOT to talk about: the first thing in your head when you look at her head to toe, SEX, anything related to sex, ex-girlfriends, and jokes about the date rape drug (Rohypnol) or any drugs of any sort. If you're a joker, joke once in a while, but be tamed on the moments when to stop. Maintain your posture; use your facial expressions to show interest. Nod in approval. Not double nods (it portrays that you are bored) but slow SINGLE nods. Notice positive body language such as the girl slowly moving towards you and have the nerve to reciprocate. Its like dance, its a disaster when only one of you is in the groove.

We might just be afraid of flirting because it makes us vulnerable to rejections and disappointments. When we come to think of it, we tend to flirt even without us knowing. Call it flirting or just being friendly, having new faces into our lives MUST have more positive effects on us than all disappointments and rejections combined. If getting to know another person is fun, then why does flirting have to be any different? Take the risk of being vulnerable, preserve mankind of its species..flirt, love and reproduce.

* All of the above was researched and are supported by credible studies, youtube videos, and experiences. But does NOT AT ALL mean that the above tips are effective. Flirting is something that is meant to be experienced by all. Each unique experience is a memory worth treasuring. So, in a nutshell.. have fun in meeting new people! And when the time will be right, there you will find your true best friends and your eternal lover. heheh CHEESY!! (what isn't cheesy anyways?)